Functionally insane, sophisticated bohemian, global soul, passionate about ideas, innovation, imagination; making a difference – I’m new-ware, but old school; and my inner child is outward bound. High definition, fast acting, oven ready, a rainmaker with a proactive outreach. On point, on task, I have unlimited broadband capacity. When I am not getting stressed, I write…writing defines me. I am constantly trying to understand my place in the world and I have found that literature is the best way to see myself. The characters are mirrors of my own soul.
CHAT WITH ME…
What did you want to be when you grew up?
A Lawyer because I loved a good debate and the idea of being in a court room. Then I realized I did not share the gene pool of most lawyers. I turned to Logistics. It was also the only course I could afford to finance myself through at that time.
In retrospect, do you wish you had studied harder or had more fun?
Impossible to have more fun than what I’ve had.
Who has influenced your life?
Several people, but foremost – my dad. He gave me the greatest gift anyone could give – he believed in me! He was more than 100 school teachers. It was many years after he had passed away before I understood we are like 2 volumes in one book. His guiding hand remains on my shoulder.
My youngest sister – for her encouragement during a dark period in my life.
TS – for being brave with the truth and who challenged my thinking and removed my blinkers; inspiring me to push boundaries and cheering me on.
JV – for his prescriptions of the three days in the week – YESTERDAY, TODAY and TOMORROW; and for influencing me to take stock of what overbooking is doing to my life. And who proved that you can’t define life, you can only use time to live it.
JE – for giving me new meaning to the word – “patience”.
What is the best thing about your job?
It puts food on the table? It challenges every part of my being. I developed balls overnight in an industry dominated by male sharks and female barracudas.
And the worst?
Dealing with corporate Styrofoam peanut heads.
What would you do if you didn’t work in Logistics?
Run a bed and breakfast on an island – the Caribbean , perhaps.
Call me naïve, but I’ve always been given to abundant faith in social work. I prefer to think that people are generally good. Sure there are people who are self-centered and plenty whose values are suspect but you always feel that when push comes to shove, they must behave decently. I am disappointed because these assumptions are being proven wrong. I am beginning to see an ugly side of people in NGOs. For some, it’s about business or about the glamour, not necessarily always about making a true difference!
What question would you most like an answer to?
When would world leaders meet their commitment to provide Universal Access to HIV treatment, care, prevention and human rights protections!
Recommend a book.
Mitch Albom’s “Tuesdays with Morrie”, an old man, a young man and life’s greatest lessons. If there’s just one book you should read in your life time. This would be it.
What’s the worst thing anyone’s ever said to you?
That I did not know what love is and I had no right to ever use the word. A friend who felt betrayed because I was not on the same page and did not share nor support his vision for the community project which we were both running together at that time.
What’s the best thing anyone’s ever said to you?
My ex-husband’s dad, who told me that he is proud of me. That I am one in a million and that he is sorry, his son was foolish to have lost the one treasure in his life. Over the years I have had several people telling me that one-in-a-million must have been written about me.
If you saw wet cement, what word would you write in it?
“ONLY ONE ”.
What is the closest you’ve ever come to death?
At age 11, I was playing with my youngest sister by the river. She fell in. I jumped in. Hoping to save her, I ended up struggling and trashing around in murky waters. We were pulled out by an elder brother. I’m sure it was the Holy Spirit who alerted him to the scene.
What music should they play at your funeral?
Joni Mitchell’s – Both Sides Now.
Daniel Craig…on second thoughts – Batman. I am irrevocably in love with a fictional character. LOL…
What annoys you most?
Ignorant, rude and dishonest people…equivalent to the fakes that are as plentiful as the “Rolexes” peddled in the night markets along Bt. Ferringhi, Penang .
What superpower would you like?
To be invisible, so I can do nice things for people without them knowing. And I could creep up on people when they least expect. LOL…
What’s your greatest fear?
If you could be any person or thing, who or what would it be?
Sometimes I think I want to be the complete opposite of me: a graceful surfer who lives on some island and whose aspiration is to get up early for a good wave and then chill on the sand doing not much of anything.
Most difficult experience?
The day I walked into the lawyer’s office to file for my divorce. But it turned out to be the best thing I ever did for myself.
Your thoughts on ‘love’?
To paraphrase Katherine Hepburn, “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only what you are expecting to give — which is everything. What you will receive in return varies. But it really has no connection with what you give. You give because you love and cannot help giving”.
What would be your perfect vacation?
An exploratory trip, through Europe and India with no agenda.
What have you learnt from your travels?
That travel is good for the soul. It also helps you appreciate who you are and your own backyard. And that it’s hard to be real friends with people you meet on holidays.
If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you choose to be?
I’d move to where my ‘heart’ resides…in a heartbeat.
What do you do to relax?
Music – soothes the soul. It’s a wonderful source for healing.
What do you consider your greatest achievement so far?
My two daughters, who are either the bane of my life or the absolute light, it varies from day to day